I was awake in the early hours of
this morning after receiving a message from my daughter at her Dad’s saying she
felt unwell. We FaceTimed in a whisper
and she carried me downstairs as she took paracetamol, made a hot water bottle
and had a wee (sound effects and everything).
We chatted for a while about her tummy pain until I was satisfied she
wasn’t in any danger (she had googled all sorts of horrendous things such as
burst appendix etc) and I told her to take me back upstairs so she could settle
back into bed and try and calm her racing heart by controlling her breathing
and clearing her mind. I heard from her Dad at 6am she was still awake although
she went to sleep shortly after.
It’s in those silent early hours
of the morning when fear can strike us. Those
breathless seconds upon waking from a nightmare before you realise it was a
dream. When the sky is very dark you can feel a very deep isolation, which you
wouldn’t necessarily feel at dawn.
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Lack of sleep is affecting millions
of people globally as they wrestle with scenarios about their lives. Will I catch Coronavirus, have I already had
it, am I asymptomatic, could I infect my family, can I get tested, is my job
safe, what happens after furlough, can I book a holiday abroad, who sits where
on the plane, will my temperature be checked at the airport, when will children
go back to school, will that be safe for them, will colleges reopen in
September, when will football resume, is my company following social distancing
procedures, should I wear a mask, does my life insurance cover Coronavirus, what
happens during a recession, will I default on my mortgage, will my business go
bust, will crops go to waste without pickers, will I be refunded for the
wedding, how many more will die, will there be food at the foodbank, will my
landlord evict me, is there any truth in Trump’s claim the virus was made in a
Wuhan laboratory? It’s not surprising
people are suffering from sleep deprivation.
I once listened to a radio
interview with a sleep expert who said, ‘you wouldn’t sit at the table for
hours waiting to get hungry’, in other words, rather than staying in bed, get
up and do something, even if it’s just reading, until such a time as you feel
yourself starting to nod off or get tired. Easier said than done right now, I
guess.
It’s also tricky when the teenage
body clock is all over the place right now. And my daughter is a born
worrier. She keeps everything in. I try my best to coax these anxious feelings
out of her, telling her I could help her better if she explained more to me
about her inner thoughts. I mentioned
this to her brother who shrugged his shoulders saying, ‘I was the same Mum, it’s
just age’, how I chuckled to myself having come full circle with him. Coming of age. What a cruel and wonderful
thing.
Once I had said goodnight to my
daughter, I lay awake thinking about feeling unwell when I was younger. I can
remember periods of time when I suffered with abdominal pain and I can always
hear my grandma’s voice in my head as she used to rub my tummy. She used to say, ‘let’s just see if we can move
it a bit’, (the pain) and whilst I’m sure it probably wasn’t possible to rub it
away completely, it still felt like magic to me and I always felt so much
better afterwards. She used to also tell me to try and lay still and these
words resonate now when I coach my daughter in the early hours, through growing
pains and mental anxieties. Words of
reassurance and comfort were all I could offer over the phone, although thank
goodness we have the facility to do this.
It is more important than ever as we somehow accept the world which we
once knew is unlikely to return any time soon.
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I think of my grandma a lot at
this time, who lived through the first and second world wars. What would she make of this now? I was chatting with my Mum about this
recently who told me that whilst her Mum said everyone pulled together during
the war years and everyone was civil to one another and helped their neighbours
out and did as much as they could to contribute to the war effort, once the war
was over, people reverted to type. The truth being that people were so fed up by
the time it was over they simply couldn’t cope with the joint effort any longer
and went back to their own lives.
I have thought about this often
over the last few weeks and wonder whether this will be the case for us in the
life after Covid19. I really want to
believe we will be there for one another as we have been although I wonder if
mentally this will be possible. In the
same way people tire of newspaper headlines which rumble on, the public appetite
for talking about this, once it’s all over will surely be like the most painful
of break-ups. We won’t want to talk
about it. We will think of it, but not
wish to dwell on it with others. There will be songs which remind us of this
period in our lives, which bring back the anguish (I can tell by your eyes that you've probably been crying forever). That sickening feeling when you look back on
a period of time where you battled through something, but when you reflect, you’re
glad the time has passed and you have moved on. It’s like a grief. There will
be smells associated with it too, whether it’s the recipe you learned during
lockdown which you kept making and never want to eat again to the alternative
body spray you ordered online when buying your usual at Tesco was banned under
non-essential rules. These will only
serve as a reminder to a time in life you don’t want to revisit. Why would you want to go back there?
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There is always, of course, the
other side of the coin. The millions of
positives we can take from this period. Those deeper relationships we have
formed with our neighbours who used to be virtual strangers to us, the renewed
relationships with friends we haven’t spoken to as much, the things which we
once took for granted we know we cannot afford to in the future, having time to
do those jobs we have always put off (did you though?), deciding on a career
change – one of my friends has signed up to a course having decided her current
job is no longer for her, hearing birdsong, appreciating the beauty of where we
live, enjoying nature, reducing our carbon footprint, breathing cleaner air, revisiting
our old record collection, raising millions for charity, encouraging each other
to do well, being kind, appreciating every meal etc.
From a social perspective I am
eager to see how this plays out in the future.
Will we revert to type as they did after the war years, according to my
grandma at least, or will we learn the lessons in order to realise that something’s
got to give; our planet has housed us without complaint for billions of years
but perhaps its reached the end of its patience with us and we need to start
treating it and each other with a bit more respect. Only time will tell - although one thing’s
for sure, Joe Wicks may need to self-hibernate for a while once we’re through
with this.
